"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage", Lao Tzu
A great saying that defines a healthy relationship. It is always easy to fall in love and have a great beginning but it is always not so easy to find the right one and spend the rest of your life happily. Everybody's healthy relationship depends on their preference, age, and goal. The type of healthy relationship defined by a teenager might not be as same as to define by someone in their late 20s. As we grow we realize a different aspect of life leading to evolving requirements in a relationship.
There are a lot of people in the world with various kinds of relationships and one of them is healthy relationships. When you are looking for someone you are ready to spend your life with, it is important to notice if you have a healthy relationship with them or not. A healthy relationship is a sign of a long-term relationship to death. There are lots of signs of a healthy relationship that differs from person to person but the ones mentioned below are the key signs. These are the 8 key signs that you are in a healthy relationship.
1. Express Yourself
Being able to express yourself to your partner is bliss. If it is easy for you two to communicate your thoughts, worries, or concerns without needing to worry that they might judge you then you are in a healthy relationship. Being able to speak your minds off refers to the feeling of being heard. You don't have to care or think twice when it comes to sharing your views with them. When your partner listens to you and also gives out perspectives or advice if needed, it is a sign that they hear you and try to understand your concern. But again it is important for you as well to do the same. It is always beautiful when efforts are from both sides. It is a healthy activity if you two set a day where you can talk your mind off when there is not enough to talk.
2. Trust Is Key
Trust is like a building block of relationships. A relationship might not even exist if there is no trust between the two. If one or both the partners are insecure and too protective towards their partners then it's a sign that your relationship is going off track. But when both the individuals trust each other and are okay with the fact that they are not together and not going to do something stupid just because they trust each other then it's another sign that you are in a healthy relationship. It does include the fact that both of you are loyal to each other, without honesty and loyalty among the partners trust never exists.
3. Personal Space
It is always nice to spend time with your loved one and share everything you do in life. But when you are in a relationship it doesn't mean that you have to do everything together. You may be an important part of their life but despite that, they do have a life of their own. Personal space must be given to both individuals to focus and achieve their life goals. Respecting each other's personal space and giving them time for their own is an essential part of a healthy relationship. It is always delightful to spend time with the ones we love but it is even more beautiful when we take time to develop our own life as well.
4. Intimacy
Emotional as well as physical intimacy is essential for a healthy relationship. We majorly define intimacy as physical intimacy i.e., sex. Everyone has their preferences when it comes to physical intimacy. Sex is always not the answer, it could be kisses, hugs, or just holding hands. Whatever you prefer, if your partner respects it instead of judging it then congrats you have got a wonderful relationship. Agreeing to the fact that your partner doesn't like certain things and being about to express your preferences is key.
5. Fights
Every relationship has been fought and if your relationship doesn't have it I doubt if you are in a real relationship or not. When you love someone or be in a relationship you share things and views and sometimes you agree and sometimes you don't. Disagreements can be a reason for a fight or misunderstanding may be as well. But instead of not talking to each other and holding your argument as a grudge, if you two talk through it and try to resolve the problem with cool minds together then it is a sign that you are in an understanding healthy relationship. Fighting with your partner is a sign that you both express each other's feelings but resolving it by keeping each other's egos aside is a healthy relationship.
6. Encouragements
Encouragement refers to motivating each other to achieve their goals. If you are jealous of your partner's achievements or compare your ability with them then there is a high chance you should look deeply into your relationship because it's a red flag. Encouraging your partner if they ever fall out of motivation and show them how great they are is a sign of a healthy relationship. Both of you might have different interests and different goals in life, instead of stressing about your achievement if you both help motivate your partners, it helps you both to grow together.
7. You Feel Yourself
Do you feel that when you are with your partner you don't have to pretend? If you feel free with your partner without fear of judgment it's a good sign. When we are around people we tend to pretend to be something we are not so that we can get accepted into this stereotype society but when you are with your loved one you don't have to do so because you know they accept you the way you are.
8. Respecting Each Other Words
This point concludes everything. We all individuals have our concerns and boundaries. It is not good to make a boundary for your partner because it is not healthy but if that boundary refers to your partner's safety and concerns then that counts in a healthy relationship. Listening to what you partner, what you say, and respecting their views is key. For example, if your partner tells you that you are not allowed to drink and have a party with your friends then that is toxic because that might ruin your relationship with your friends and also your freedom. But if your partner tells you to drink within the limit or not to drive yourself when you are drunk then that is a good sign as he/she cares for you and then is out of concern. Respecting their worry and obeying them is a healthy relationship.
If your relationship has all these signs then congrats you are in a beautiful healthy relationship. Relationships are not constant, it grows and changes as per time but it completely depends on the two how they tackle all those odds together. If any of these signs are missing in your relations then it's time to work on it. Remember you cannot clap with one hand you need both in the same way a healthy relationship comes when both sides come together to appreciate each other.